My WHY
I wrote this big, long post about what’s going through my head earlier today. I was (and am) apprehensive about sharing it with you. So I went for a walk and started listening to a chapter of Start With Why (an awesome book) again, and it got me thinking about what my WHY is for everything I do (in both my business and in my life).
And what I realised is that I strongly feel that my WHY is: to build me a better, happier, healthier future.
In every decision I make, this is what I consider first. When I was deciding on making this adventure it’s purpose was to make me feel alive again. To make me see things from a different perspective and to inject some happiness back into my life. That’s how I feel about sharing Making Bold Plans with you. That you too can build a better, happier, healthier future or whatever the future is that you are looking for.
So I’ve decided due to an overwhelming number of negative factors that I’m going to come home. I’m struggling to find full time employment (that I don’t really want – I want to run my own business) that will allow me to meet the requirements to rent my own apartment, in what has turned out to be a city that I don’t really even like, let alone love and one that’s sending me broke – fast.
While I don’t make the decision to leave Canada lightly, it’s been keeping me awake at night for days, I don’t see a better, happier, healthier future for me here. In some ways I wish I’d come here to visit first, just to see if it was a good fit. But I took the leap knowing that there was a chance that it would be that way. If money were no object, I’d probably fly to Vancouver and try things there, but in reality money is a huge factor, and I’d much rather go home with an awesome plan for my business back home, feeling confident now – then to go home defeated and deflated in 3 months time. If things are right later in the year, maybe I’ll try Vancouver or somewhere else, armed with what I know about how things work in Canada now.
I want to get back to running; to eating healthier; to laughing more; and to seeing more of the beautiful State I grew up in. This trip has helped me define who I am and what I want for my life and for that I’m forever grateful.
This won’t be the end of my 27 adventure at all, for one I’m still 27 and two I just got my ticket and flights for Problogger on the Gold Coast, Queensland in September. Now I know what I really want, things are starting to fall into alignment again. I’m not fighting against the tide of ‘they’ll be disappointed in me if I don’t stay’ and I’m swimming with ‘this is what I really want’. In the end, as much as I want to make everyone proud/happy/high fiveing me, I can’t put that first.
Adventures will always have their twists and turns and this is mine. I made my dream of this trip come true and I couldn’t be happier in my decision. I still have a little while before I’ll be home, but it all just feels right.
x
PS the photo of me is the first time I smiled since I got here, and it was because I realised that I could come home.
Historic Downtown Wilmington & One Tree Hill Moments
I’m still in Toronto, and am having a week that’s a bit better than last week thanks to the kindness of people I met through twitter. It’s a lot more challenging than I ever anticipated and the uncertainty is making it difficult, but more on that on Monday. This weekend I just wanted to share with you some more moments from my amazing trip across the USA, so today I’m taking you back to Wilmington, North Carolina to a chilly Sunday morning. x
After the big scare with the tire and the rental car, I decided that Sunday morning, while it was still early (and hopefully there was still on street parking available), I would drive into the downtown area and see some of the One Tree Hill sights of Wilmington and just take a good look at the Cape Fear.
The day started a bit chilly at 1°C but there wasn’t much of a breeze, so I decided to take a walk along the river walk, where so many scenes of the show had been filmed and where it is so picturesque and calm. I had always wanted to see the Cape Fear Memorial Bridge in person and it was even more impressive in person than the TV showed. The perfect backdrop to an imaginary town.
After walking along the river walk and trying to spot where scenes from the show that are etched in my memory are, I went to look for a snack. In the window of the Black Cat Shoppe, I noticed that they had Keith Scott Body Shop T-Shirts (like the hoodie that Lucas wears in all of season 1). I could hardly contain my excitement (nerd alert). After finding my cool, I went in to find that they had all sorts of OTH “memorbilia” including Clothes over Bros T-shirts and postcards of Karen’s Cafe taken during filming. They also had Dawson’s Creek stuff as that was filmed here too, but it’s OTH that I love.
I couldn’t resist the Keith Scott t-shirt and some postcards and while I was buying them, the owner explained that it was that very shop that we first saw Chris Keller! Yep, I was in the record store! How cool! I loved how proud the people were that a show like that chose their town and lasted so long. (9 seasons for those not in-the-know)
After grabbing some amazing fudge from the shop just down the street, it was time for me to walk around and see if I could spot any landmarks from the show. Unfortunately my plan to use google maps failed on me when I lost 3G reception for the whole day! Boo! Take a printed map if you’re going! But I did find some that were definitely in the show and some that just looked vaguely familiar (like the church below).
One of my favourite early episodes of the show was when Peyton went to visit Jake in Savannah, (at the end of season 3, I think) and she talks about going to the Savannah College of Art and Design and she points to it. Well, it turns out they didn’t go to Savannah and this old building below stood in for it. Ha!
Then I was just wondering the streets, taking photos of the pretty buildings when I heard a loud RAWR from above whilst crossing the street and 3 fighter jets were flying overhear. I pointed my camera up and clicked 3 shots. One came good:
By then it was time for lunch and there was just one special spot left to see, but first I stopped into the lovely Java Dog Cafe and had some lunch. It still had some old advertising on the wall as well as some cool decor.
Then it was finally time to see the one place you must visit as a true One Tree Hill fan: the Corner of Front and Grace. It’s the home of Karen’s Cafe from seasons 1-4; was Clothes over Bros in seasons 5-8, and Karen’s Cafe again at the end of season 8 and in season 9. For Fans of season 9 the left corner is Baker Boys (Brooke’s clothing store) and right is Karen’s Cafe.
Whilst Wilmington had some really stressful things happen (including accidentally smashing my favourite nail polish all over the hotel bathroom floor – North Carolina hates me), I did really enjoy coming to see where a show that I adore came to life.
Wilmington also gave me the chance to see a friend I made when I was a uni and befriended some amazing American exchange students, which was just wonderful. Sometimes these things don’t go to plan, but you find gems in them.
x
A Sunny Day in Wilmington (& then it Went Pear-Shaped)
To continue where I left off, I picked up the very expensive rental car in the rain in Charleston, and left it in the car park (parking lot) outside the hotel overnight and checked out of the hotel in the morning (in the sunshine) ready to take the 17 North to Wilmington, driving on the right hand side of the road for the first time ever.
Other than accidentally setting off the car alarm whilst trying to start it, (oops!!) the drive was really straight forward. Follow the signs that said 17 North almost all the way. The google gps app on my phone talked me through all the turns and I worked out that the car had cruise control about 2 hours into the 3.5 hour trip. The roads were lined with pretty trees, and I stuck to the slow lane. In North Carolina the speed limit is treated as much more of a guide than a limit (as is much of the States, I have since learnt) where as in South Carolina it’s pretty well enforced.
The trip wasn’t difficult at all and I managed to remember to do the turn off into the USS Battleship North Carolina site, where I stopped, not to see the Battleship, but to see where the River Court from the TV show One Tree Hill was filmed. It was beautiful and sunny. Sadly the court was torn down after the show finished up at the end of 2011, but it was awesome to see that backdrop of the Cape Fear and the buildings across the river. I felt happy and ready to drive on to the hotel.
I checked in without hassle and decided to take a drive out to Wrightsville Beach, also featured in the show. (If you haven’t realised yet, I went to Wilmington because my favourite show was filmed there – nerd alert). The drive was a not long but a bit bumpier as the roads aren’t great, but I found a parking spot and took a walk along the beach to see the Atlantic again.
There were people surfing in the freezing cold ocean, and I recognised the Johnnie Mercer Fishing pier from the show. If you’re interested, crazy Katie tries to jump from it in an episode, so even though it felt far away I decided to walk down to it and have a better look. It was nice just walking along the beach and taking my time. It got to about 5pm on that Friday afternoon and I decided that I would use the GPS to find pizza and take it back to the hotel before dark as I didn’t want to drive after dark when left turns were still freaking me out.
That’s when it all went pear shaped. I was driving to get pizza and hit a manhole cover in the road. It sliced the front right tire open. It went BANG, and went down so fast. Not really knowing what had happened and trying not to burst into tears, I made the first left turn and saw a Best Buy with a parking lot and pulled into the first open spot. By then I was shaking, having never ever needing to call roadside assistance before I called the rental car’s roadside number and they told me someone would be there within the hour and that the safety tire would be put on and then I would have to drive out to the nearest airport to get a replacement rental. By the time the guy changed the tire over it was dusk and I would still have to drive out to the airport in the dark still without any dinner. This was a nightmare!!
By the time I got to the airport and found the correct place to leave the car, I turned off the engine and burst into tears. The poor guy didn’t really know how to handle crying Dannielle, but he was nice to me and helped me fill in the incident report, and gave me an upgrade on the car that I had booked as they didn’t have any of them. That car was so totally different inside that I had trouble finding where everything was in the dark, but with the help of the GPS and some sheer luck I made it back to the hotel a nervous wreck but in one piece.
Still without any dinner though, so I ordered pizza delivery online. It felt weird ordering to a hotel, but there was no way I was driving anywhere else so it had to be done. I think I gave a really good tip to the delivery guy too.
Saturday I decided that I would stay in the hotel all day and calm down from the fright the day before. It was a smart idea as I needed it and sometimes when you’re travelling a day off is just what you need.
I’m glad that I didn’t get hurt, and this definitely makes it into the books for travel stories worth telling, but it was definitely something that I could have done without. I guess this trip really counts as an adventure now, hey?!
x
